Inspiration: May 26

Inspiration May 26 >> Life In Limbo

I love this comic for so clearly and explicitly explaining something that is so difficult to articulate or put into words, but so important and relates to such a prevalent issue. Send it to someone the next time they tell you, “You should have asked for help!”

Austin Kleon created another list of awesome advice for recent graduates (or anyone in transition). His original list is linked in the post, if you’re curious.

For anyone struggling with relationships or dating, I find this blog to be super helpful in giving you a real, helpful smackdown about raising your standards and respecting your own boundaries.

I went to Creative Mornings again this month with my friends and had a great time. The Toronto event this month was held on the old floor of the Toronto Stock Exchange, which was such a neat experience! I love starting my day off with a hit of inspiration.

I haven’t watched this yet, but I’m so excited to see this interview between Marie Forleo and Mark Manson – I find both of them super inspiring.


It’s been a blur of a week! In fact, the last few all have. I’ve been keeping very busy both with work and friends and trying new things. I’m so in love with the life I’m creating here in Toronto and though there have been a few rough patches lately – challenges, I’ll call them – I have this lovely feeling of progress and unfolding. This weekend I want to take it nice and easy and enjoy some relaxation. Hope you have a wonderful weekend too! xo.

On Growing Pains

On Growing Pains >> Life In Limbo

Remember when I wrote that moving to Toronto would be my next big adventure? At the time, I thought I was being kinda cute or kinda funny or something: I was moving back home after a few years of living abroad. I knew that this chapter would bring its own challenges, but how hard could it be? I’d navigated Korean grocery stores and learned to ride a motorcycle in Thailand and held my own at a massive Ecuadorian family reunion speaking only rudimentary Spanish, for heaven’s sake. Forgive me if I kind of thought, “I got this.”

Are you guys laughing? Because I’m laughing. Because I’m naive and young and I always seem to think, “I got this”, until I get some serious knowledge dropped on my head and it turns into a question: “Do I got this?” (Hint: no.)

I can safely say that the last six months have been some of the best of my life. They have been so rich with life, with love, with this beautiful feeling of community that I’ve craved for so long. I’ve gone home (way) more times in the last 6 months than I did for the past 6 years, which is such a blessing. I’ve spent time with my sisters, and my parents, and my grandparents. I’ve made friends with fellow entrepreneurs, with my baristas, with my colleagues, with strangers. I’ve gotten to work with so many amazing people, doing things that I am really passionate about. I’ve gained the kind of confidence that I didn’t know I was capable of. I have friends who feel like family to me. I’ve gotten so many incredible opportunities handed to me on what feels like a silver platter. So much so that one day a couple weeks ago I went to the park in the middle of the afternoon on a beautifully sunny day and I actually cried: I am so lucky. I am so lucky. I am so lucky.

On Growing Pains >> Life In Limbo

Here’s the thing though. The last few months have also pushed me, hard. Would you like some examples? There was the time my rent e-transfer got deposited into the wrong account and for two months I thought I’d lost a huge chunk of cash that I didn’t exactly have lying around. There was the time that my landlords sold the house I live in and I didn’t know whether I would have to move out. There were weeks of work days when I felt frantic and tired and over-caffeinated and hangry because I didn’t stop to eat properly. There were a lot of nights, especially in the winter, when I felt incredibly lonely because I realized that my friends in the city had their own busy lives and mine felt, by contrast, very empty. There were a handful of times that I got news that sent me reeling for hours or days. There was the frustration of trying – for nearly a year – to get some of my most precious items sent back to me from another country. There has been heartbreak. There have been a lot of tears. There has been a lot of growth.

My dear friend Sonja helped me reframe this once recently by saying:

“The pain and heartbreak you are feeling? these are growing pains.

Growing pains! The pain we go through as we grow. What we experience when we shed what we don’t want, to make room for what we do: the best version of ourselves and the best version of our lives. What I love about this idea is that it reminds us that it can hurt to grow. It can hurt like hell. It can push all our buttons and emotionally punch us in the gut and make us need to rage-walk around the neighbourhood listening to rage-y music. (Not to be confused with rave-y music, although to each their own.) In fact, as I’ve come to learn, the best kind of growth hurts us exactly like this, because it’s the kind that actually changes us, shakes us up, and improves our lives for the better.

There’s a piece of writing advice that I love which says that to be a good writer, you have to “kill your darlings”. In the context of writing, this means that you often have to cut out the sentences or characters that are the literary equivalent of My Precious: you love them maybe a little too much, and they’re ultimately not serving the story as a whole. They’ve got to go.

On Growing Pains >> Life In Limbo

I’m learning that in the context of life, killing your darlings means cutting out the people and the limiting beliefs about yourself or the world that are somehow Precious to your identity, in order to make room for the good stuff. Here’s the thing though: at the time you do so, killing your darlings REALLY does not feel like you’re making room for the good stuff. It feels – pardon my French – like shit. If you’re like me, you may have to be dragged kicking and screaming to the idea of killing said darlings, and you will not enjoy even one single minute of it.

This is what I think is so important to remember, and why I resonate so much with the idea that these are growing pains: big, important life lessons are often about both growth and pain. But if we forget this fact, we aren’t going to ever want to do the work. We won’t kill our darlings or break our patterns or do the thing that’s scary. We’ll think: this hurts, I don’t like it, make it stop, and go back to the way we’ve been doing things all along. Staying still is way easier than moving forward. Or, as I joked earlier tonight: “Oh, so this is what not settling feels like – it totally sucks. No wonder so many people avoid it by just..settling.”

The fact is that it hurts to stretch, it hurts to shed your skin, it hurts to get two inches taller overnight. We have to remember that it hurts for a reason, it hurts because better things are coming, it hurts because we are being remade.

Inspiration: May 19

Inspiration: May 19 >> Life In Limbo

I am vindicated! As my parents can attest, I talk to myself constantly. #sorrynotsorry

Look at this big beautiful book stack. So much summer reading inspiration here!

“What will seem normal to the children of America by the end of the next four years?”

This is such a heartbreaking story, but told so perfectly. It made me cry but it also made me think hard.

“I’m wasting my likeable on the wrong people.” Does anyone else do this constantly?!?!

I signed up for an Audible trial last month but enjoyed it so much I think I’m going to keep my membership. If you’re curious, I listened to The Law of Attraction. It was weird but good.


I finally got internet installed at my house after almost a month without! If you’re like me and your job is quite literally dependent on an internet connection, you’ll understand how annoying this was. So having it back is such a relief! I am definitely planning a movie night tonight to make the most of having my Netflix account back online ;). I hope you have a wonderful long weekend! xo.

Inspiration: May 5

Inspiration May 5 >> Life In Limbo

Excellent advice for people in transition.

I definitely laughed out loud at this video, but it’s also sending an important message.

Cried while watching this video (at the library, lol) because of the raw emotion and also because it’s especially poignant given the healthcare debacle currently taking place in America.

Ooh, I adore the concept of opting out of things. I’ve probably shared this article before, but it still makes me want to make my own list and stick by it.

In case anyone was, like me, still not on this train: look into Subscribe & Save. Just as I was thinking “hmm, my body lotion is running out, maybe I should go and buy some more..” I got a notification from Amazon saying they were sending me some. This is modern technology at its finest, people. I shall now go and automate toilet paper and dental floss.

Mailchimp brought back free automation! Such great news. I was grandfathered in so I still had it, but it’s so fun for anyone who’s just starting out to be able to automate welcome emails for free.

PSA: I haven’t had internet at home for a couple weeks so I’ve spent so much less time on Instagram. And I barely even miss it. This is great.


I missed last week’s post because I was just getting back from Nurture, having spent three days with a group of amazing and inspiring women. It was a lot of work but also a lot of fun and I learned a lot – both about myself and about how to help run a retreat. An excellent challenge, to say the least. I can’t believe it was only a week ago!

This weekend is my grandma’s birthday party, so I’ll be spending it with family, which I always love. My fam is the best. I hope you have a wonderful weekend too! xo.